Confidence. Convincing.
I have such confidence about the way in which I live my life that I feel NO need to convince others that my way is "right," is "good." Actually, it seems to be the other way around. Whether others agree with me or like the way I view things makes no impact on my perspective. Don't misunderstand me. I will listen to others and try to understand them. Understanding does not mean that you agree. I ask lots of questions but always end up solidifying my reasoning from the answers I receive.
What intrigues me is to see others in the world who supposedly are confident in their values, lifestyles, and their life perspectives but yet are compelled to convince others that they are "right," they are "good." To me, this seems inconsistent and is an inherent flaw in their confidence.
What calls my attention even more is how this will play out with my children. Will I end up being more of a convincer to them? It seems you have inherent desires for your children's life experience based on your own. It would appear those desires may drive your interactions. Therefore, the challenge will be, for me, to posit many questions to get my children to think for themselves, without me, influencing the route too much. Can this be done?
Hi Kira!
ReplyDeleteKids have a way of picking up the behaviors, habits and thinking of their parents without any explicit instruction. I think the best thing a child can get from a parent is to see him or her thinking for themselves and expressing reasons. Parents who introspect and think things through have a positive influence on their children.
There is a wonderful blog by Jen Casey who is raising three children and simply makes life fun for all concerned at: http://rationaljenn.blogspot.com/
Enjoy!